Father, leader

[jason]

I am a father of two boys. Every single day is a learning experience. The concept of extreme ownership applies directly and perfectly to leading my family. I'm fortunate to have found this book while my boys are still young.

[norrisbuffalo]

So, what if you hadn't found it until they were in their twenties? I lead men who hate their fathers for one reason or another. Some because their mom's don't understand their husbands idea of retirement. Some because they think their fathers should have different values. The idea that you have a perfect scenario for leading your family implies that your family is restricted to a marginal set of leadership ideas. Variety breeds survivors. How do you encourage your offspring to be varied?

[J. Evans]

It's interesting reading the points that the above gentlemen brought up about men growing up to hate their fathers vs. current father's grasping for any and all advice regarding leadership for their families. This, from a 22 year old was also lucky enough to find Jocko and his approach to life in general before having any kids of my own.

Personally, I don't want my future kids or my brothers to think that they can't do something. That there really is a way to develop conducive mental and discipline habits and actually love it. It breaks my heart because I went my whole life being told that I had "ADD" which is why my grades were garbage in high school and I missed out on a lot of opportunities because of it. Much like what Jody said his childhood was like.

So here's my thought: there are two things that I need to identify to actually focus... (1) An application that is align with career/dreams (2) HOW TO eliminate the forces working against me that are derailing my efforts. Meaning MITIGATING any risk that poses a threat to my attention/thought process (i.e. TV, other projects or books, phone, noise). And if I'm feeling really out of it or if I have to focus on something crucial, I'll go so far as to make my own poster board presentations like they would have you make in grade school and plaster them all over the wall; the idea being surrounding myself with the material to where IT IS THE DISTRACTION...

Anyways, I think an important part about leadership is making sure that you're "subordinates" basically know how to learn, as in how to unlock the full potential of their minds. Which plays into the "teach a man to fish" concept, and thus loops back into what I brought up earlier about wanting my subs to know that they can accomplish anything, it's just that sometimes people just don't know where to start which may very well be the beginning.

I would love to hear Jocko's take, given he's a little more grammatically graceful in his execution.