Q&A for Podcast 92? Friend and Ex gf betrayal

[AvidListener]

So my high school sweet heart (2005-2008) has recently came back into my life. After spending the night with one another (last werkend) she confessed that two months after we broke up in 2008 she slept with one of my close friends. I know you preach to let it go and to move on but how do I confront my friend about this? Im not to happy with her. He hasnt said a thing, we have have been roommates, I actually had no idea he would do something like that. Is the bro code not a thing anymore? I'm asking for advice on how to handle this. It's eating me up that one of my friends would sleep with my ex right after we had broken up. I know they are equally at fault but how do I get past this next confrontation with my friend. I don't want to lose self control but I feel like he deserves a nice crack to his jaw. Hopefully jocko and echo see this.

Thanks

[mynewunit]

It definitely hurts. I once lost a girl friend to the bass player in my band. To be totally honest, it took me about 3 months to get over that.

Two things. Do you remember how dumb high school kids are?  I realize that having a 2-3 year relationship in high school is a huge part of your life. The details around that relationship ending are not significant. High school was a great part of life. Even the "hurts" give you great wisdom and experience. 

Second: What is your goal? If you want to keep your friendship, you are going to have to get past this. If not, you are just punching a person from your past. Ten years from now, when you run into one of these 2 people, do you want to talk about home coming football games or how you were wronged? You had something happen to you that you didn't know for 9 years? And now it is a problem?  

I see something deeper.  This must have hit close to home.  I think you are feeling alone, and now you just got even more distant from 2 friends.  I would keep away from these 2 and probably any other friends from that circle for 2 or 3 months.  Burn it out and then go back to life as normal.  Try to figure out why it bothers you. Get some new friends. Take up golf or church to find new girls. Or the top trick is acting classes, but you didn't hear that from me.

[AvidListener]

Roger