How to keep my kids in Jiu jitsu?

[Deedubz]

Hey guys, my family an I enrolled in a local jiu jitsu academy in our community. At first it was great. I would go in the mornings and then take my kids in the evenings. That lasted a couple of months. My oldest son started doing bad in school. Hes 8, he got suspended for fighting a couple of times. Then his grades took a hit. We started to noticed behavior issues with him. Shortly he was diagnosed with Anxiety.... I never thought this would be a daily battle for my son. Long story short. After a 8 month break and making improvements we decided to put my oldest back in jiu jitsu. We went 3 times a week for a couple of months.... now I can't get the kid to go. I want him to go but i don't want to force him. Thank god for the excellent professors and coaches at my gym who work with my son. Im looking at some advise on how to motivate my kid to get back in it. Hes not very athletic, maybe hes not meant to be in jiu jitsu. I just bought Jockos children's book the way of the warrior child. I hope this helps out. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[mynewunit]

You have to let him make the choice. Now that doesn't mean he runs the show. My youngest decided she didn't want to go. She made it to 6 months before i let her make the decision, but it didn't match her temperment. She still had to go sit and watch her older sister's class when mom couldn't watch her.

They have to have some say in their lives. They will follow their plan better than your plan. There are great things out there. He is young. Let him play. Football, hockey, soccer, swimming, gymnastics, band, scouts, bikes, whatever. Let him choose and be supportive.

Jiu-jitsu is a great skill but no better than carpentry, literacy, teamwork, problem solving.

Keep it up. Be the example. Be humble. Start by listening.

[deedubz]

Thanks for the reply as well as the advise.